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Monday, June 16, 2014
"I locked my door. It was weird. When I was around my mother I couldn’t help hating her and blaming her for my father leaving. When I was by myself or with Tara and her mom I blamed myself and my stupid guardian angel, though I wondered if I even had one. When I was with Jean I blamed her and the hotline counselor. When my dad was leaving I felt like it was all his fault. I was mad at everyone." From The Thursday Group; A Story and Information for Girls Healing From Sexual Abuse, page 148
Anger and Your Body
When you are angry, your whole body goes into “fight, flight or freeze” mode. Your brain might kick into fighting mode, which means you will fight with words or actions. It might force you to run away or to get out of the situation in any way that you can. Or, it might ‘freeze’ and leave you unable to get out of the situation or to say or do anything to help yourself. This is the same brain and body system that is activated when a person is abused. That means that, for some people, when they are angry, their body and brain are triggered to remember the abuse, or, when they think about the abuse, their body and brain are triggered into becoming automatically angry. One way to tell whether your angry reaction is about what is going on now or is an automatic reaction based on your abuse experience is proportion. Ask yourself, “Is what’s going on now worth this big a reaction? Is there something about what is happening now that reminds me of the abuse?” From The Thursday GroupA Story and Information for Girls Healing From Sexual Abuse, page 150