Hi! My name is Abi and I would like to welcome you to The Thursday Group blog!

If you are looking for support and information about healing from sexual abuse, you have come to a good place. You might have come to this blog because someone you know has been sexually abused or you might be here because you’ve been sexually abused yourself. Either way, you could still have some uncomfortable, difficult, or scary feelings about what happened. It is wonderful that you are looking for more information and support. If you are like me, just thinking about the topic of sexual abuse can be stressful.You may want to take a few minutes right now and notice your breathing. If you are holding your breath, or taking quick shallow breaths, see if you can take a deep breath into your belly, letting your stomach go out as you breath in. When you breath out, just let the air flow out slowly and easily. Take another slow easy breath into your belly, and then let the air flow out slowly. If you want to, slowly take three or four more breaths, making your stomach expand like a balloon each time you breath in, and relax each time you breath out. Inside yourself, just say hello gently to your body and any feelings you are noticing. Look at some of the things that are around you wherever you are. Breathing, and noticing things around you like this, is something I learned about when I was in a support group with four other middle school girls in my town who had been sexually abused. I wrote The Thursday group to hopefully make things easier for others. This blog tells about the book (including messages from the other characters and sample chapters to read or listen to), and where you can order it. You will also find links to other good books and web sites. If you start to notice that your breathing becomes uneven or really fast, or your heart feels like it is pounding in your chest or you get dizzy or feel unreal; please, get up from the computer or iphone, look at the things that are around you, and go find or call that trusted adult. If you don’t have an adult in your life that you can talk to, please call a hotline number.

I am a fictional character, but I was created out of the very real feelings and experiences of the girls PeggyEllen and Kimber used to be, and the girls they have known.

We hope that this blog and book will help you heal.


Need to talk to someone or report abuse? Call: 1-800-4ACHILD or 1-800-422-4458

The person who answers your call can help you figure out what to do and how to get help. If you call from a land line instead of a cell phone, the call will be free and will not show on a phone bill.

Links for Young People

ChildHelp USA
24 hour confidential hotline (won’t show up on your phone bill unless you are using a cell phone)
1-800-4ACHILD or 1-800-422-4453   www.childhelpusa.org
National Youth Advocacy Coalition
Publications and resources for queer and questioning youth
1-800-541-6922   www.nyacyouth.org
Careline Crisis Intervention Hotline
24 hour confidential hotline and chatline*
1-800-273-8255    http://www.carelinealaska.com/

Strong at the Heart: How it feels to heal from sexual abuse by Carolyn Lehman
This wonderful website features an excellent book with true stories of young people who have lived through sexual abuse or assault and are willing to talk about how it has impacted their lives and how they are healing.  These are very positive stories of courage, creativity, and community.   http://www.strongattheheart.com/

Youth GLTB(Gay, Lesbian, Transgendered, Bisexual) talkline
 1-800-246-PRIDE (1-800-246-7743) http://www.glnh.org/talkline/index.html

Susan Smith’s Legal Resources for Victims of Sexual Abuse
Laws and information for all 50 states  www.smith-lawfirm.com
Victim Assistance
If the person who abused you is convicted, you may be entitled to Victim’s Compensation Benefits, which can help pay for counseling or medical bills. Contact the U.S. Department of the Interior Victim Assistance Program at 1-877-246-1373 for more information.     http://www.doi.gov/watch_office/victim_assistance/rr.html
 *An important note about the internet, websites, and blogs: please note that anything you put into the internet system can be accessed by others if they have the understanding, knowledge, and desire to do so. The internet is not a confidential means of communication, and your private information may be compromised.